Thursday, September 16, 2010

The Masks That We Wear (Also My Facebook Wellness Giveaway Details!)

"We all wear masks - metaphorically speaking."
- Ben Stein as Dr. Arthur Neuman in "The Mask"

In psychology, we learn that humans tend to show different sides of themselves to different people or groups of people (which is a good thing - we don't want to be so indiscreet that we share the same things we'd tell our closest and dearest friends with, say, our insurance brokers.)

While we remain ourselves at the core, there are situations in which we intuitively know or feel that it is either okay or inappropriate to share a part of ourselves.  We tend to share more with people we trust and hold back when with people we don't (or in situations that require us to present ourselves academically or professionally.)

This is true of all human beings, including famous figures such as Marilyn Monroe. Marilyn is a great example of the masks theory.  She presented herself as a sexy vixen, full of confidence and glamour. Yet in her death, we learned that underneath the alter ego of Marilyn, there was a woman by the name of Norma Jean Baker, who many say was a vulnerable, insecure, and at times emotionally unstable.

She is quoted as having said: "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

I thought of Marilyn today after I caught myself uttering insecurities galore.  Since I write about self-confidence, love, and acceptance, one of my coworkers found it quite curious that I would say such things when I present so much differently through my Sulilo persona.   I am truly grateful that she said something.

It really made me think, and I want to share this:

I am on this road along side of you.  This journey is life-long (and for most of us numerous life-times long), and I surely have not mastered the arts of self-confidence, self-love, or self-acceptance. In fact, I consider much of my writing to be a reflection of my own vulnerabilities as well as love letters to myself and to any other soul with which my messages resonate.  Many times, the topic of my blog will spring from a personal experience or observation, and I write as if I were my own best friend and were going through the same situation. What would I say?

My intention is to tune into Source, to Life, and my Heart when I present you with various topics and discussions. May you be blessed and take from it what you need.  May you remember that none among us is perfect - not even the biggest self-help Guru on the planet.  We are all on this road together.



  1. As you mentioned, we are not perfect, no one is. If one believes and is reminded that where we are and where we meant to be because it is what we need to feel to get to the next place in our lives, it makes it a tad easier. Acceptance and having faith in the Universe is ultimate. We all have our weaker moments, but they are perfect moments too because it is where we need to be. Embrace love, pain, laughter, sadness into us, let the energy pass and we will smile again. There is too many blessings around us! Each of us are ONE! XXX

  2. I love everything that you said - and you're right - even the imperfectness is perfect because it is what it is in this very present moment, and it is all a part of a larger process and plan. Thank you, and namaste.


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